We always here about people who are out there “living their dreams” and it’s what we all aspire to. Everyone would like to be able to do what they love, make a living out of it and follow their hearts desires be it traveling, making art, writing, building a school in some far off place or just living a simple life in the countryside with their family.
To live your dreams though, you usually need to know what those dreams are — although I would say it’s completely possible to accidentally happen across your ideal lifestyle and fulfill dreams you didn’t know you had. So, what if you don’t know what your dreams are?
For me, it’s not specific things I aspire to… Although, yes, I would like to have little cottages dotted around the world and be able to travel to whichever of them I feel like whenever I want. I want to be able to donate to charities and people that do good things in the world. And I do want to go dog-sledding in Lapland one day, with reindeer… But it’s not physical things I aspire to, but ways of living.
Put simply, I want to be able to do what I want, where I want, when I want, with whom I want and how I want. A simple request, surely? Now, I don’t mean this in a selfish or criminal way — I don’t need to break any laws or tread on other people — this is ultimately my aspiration to “Freedom”.
Many people need to find out what it is they want to do — what their dreams are. If this is you, firstly, I would say you need to follow your intuition — your inner guide. You need to do your internal work. If you find that you usually take the avoidant route by switching off and binge-watching TV and movies or PlayStation all the time, then maybe it’s time you need to take a break from that… Although I do love crime drama…
Consciously, purposefully, do something different!
Visit what I will call “Resource Treasuries” ie a library, art gallery, performing arts center, museum, community center. You can use the internet of course, but the distractions are greater and you’ll likely end up on social media or watching something you didn’t intend to be watching. YouTube is a great resource, but be aware of what you’re doing. Stay focused! It would be better to physically go out somewhere like the library to do it.
Search actively; whether randomly, just following breadcrumbs of information wherever they take you, or specifically. If you have the spark of an idea, follow that. If you can’t find what you’re looking for, ask other people. Other people can be the best and most surprising resources — you never know what stories and knowledge people have hidden away inside, just waiting for you to ask.
Another way to find your own way is to help other people. One of the best ways to feel good and purposeful is to help others. Make the effort to volunteer. There are innumerable ways and places to do so — hospitals, libraries, schools, homeless shelters, food banks, even in businesses you are interested in.
Get out there and get involved! Visit that place you thought of visiting for a long time, go out to the local farmers and craft markets on the weekends, etc. buy that ticket, take that weekend away and dedicate time to yourself, time to invest in self-research to find out what you really love, are interested in and want to do.
Treat your life like a video game or movie — you always want to get to the next level or find out what happens next. Don’t just push it off for later, avoid thinking about it or think that dreams are just for other people. Get out there and live!